I’m a 35 (soon to be 36) year old woman. I’ve been married 13 (14 in December) years. We’ve had a very hard marriage due to miscarriages, infertility, depression, and my ADHD. We were struggling with my strong desire to become a mother (through fertility treatments or adoption) and my depression. Because the depression caused our home to become, well, less than cared for in a healthy way and my impulsivity (from the ADHD, which had yet to be diagnosed), through overspending, had led my husband to believe I/we weren’t stable enough to have a child in the home, I chose to leave in 2008. I will not go into the details, but I will tell you that this separation led me to my diagnosis. We have been back together since 2009. We are still struggling, but we love each other and work very hard to stay together and cherish the good moments as few and far between as they may be.
I am writing this blog to share in my experiences so that fellow ADHD’ers will know they are not alone, to help their loved ones better understand them, and to remind everyone reading that we are all humans and we all make mistakes. It is not the mistakes a person makes that make up who they are, but rather, how they handle the after effects of the mistake.
Thanks for tuning in. Please comment and share how my writings encourage you along your own ADHD journey or that of a loved one.